Cheater, Cheater, Pumpkin Eater
Friday, November 20th, 2009 Posted in Cheating, Growth & fixed mindsets | 1 Comment »It doesn't feel all that festive to talk about cheating around Thanksgiving. But as kids head into their finals, I think it is appropriate to understand how and why we are raising a generation of cheaters. We've created ...
How to Love Bigger, Better, More
Tuesday, October 20th, 2009 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay | 4 Comments »Let’s not lie. Despite his controversial views on parenting, I love Michael Lewis. I LOVE his book about parenting, even though much of it goes against what I preach; I love his sense of humor; I love that ...
Raising Cheaters
Tuesday, March 24th, 2009 Posted in Changing bad habits into good ones, Cheating, Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Success, Success & failure | 3 Comments »Last week I visited a high school that has a really spectacular Honor Code. There are no locks on the doors, and all the exams are unproctored. For more than 100 years, kids at this school haven’t cheated. But ...
Getting the Ratios Right
Thursday, January 29th, 2009 Posted in Getting the ratios right, Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Marriage, On Life & Being a Parent, Praise, Success | 3 Comments »Is it possible to praise your children too much? Last year I spent a lot of time emphasizing the importance of growth-mindset praise, and as a result this is a question I get asked a lot. The corollary ...
7 Ways to Foster Creativity in Your Kids
Tuesday, September 16th, 2008 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Play & creativity, School & scheduling, Success, Success & failure | 4 Comments »Many people assume that creativity is an inborn talent that their kids either do or do not have: just as all children are not equally intelligent, all children are not equally creative. But actually, creativity is more skill than ...
How to Stop Being a Perfectionist
Tuesday, September 9th, 2008 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Perfectionism, Success, Success & failure | 4 Comments »If you’ve been reading this series on perfection being a total drag on happiness, and you keep thinking to yourself, crap, I’ve created a perfectionist, and now you’re worried that your daughter is going to end up depressed and stifled ...
How To Make Your Kid into a Perfectionist
Wednesday, September 3rd, 2008 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Perfectionism, Success, Success & failure | 1 Comment »In my last post, I made the case for preventing perfectionism in children, and got a slew of emails from people asking how to prevent perfectionism. Kids today, especially upper-middle class kids, are under a lot of pressure to ...
Perfectionism is a Disease
Saturday, August 30th, 2008 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Perfectionism, Success, Success & failure | 7 Comments »Although in my last post I heartily extolled the importance of hard work, I'd like to clarify that I'm not advocating that you push your children to become perfectionists. Perfectionism is not a happiness habit. Maybe it isn't ...
Raising Optimistic Kids
Monday, April 21st, 2008 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Optimism, Praise | 6 Comments »The last post was about why we parents should foster optimism in our kids. In a nutshell: there is a close link between how optimistically kids think and how healthy and happy they are—and how they perform academically and ...
The Right Way to Praise Kids
Thursday, October 25th, 2007 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Praise, Success, Video | 14 Comments »There are four ways to view this 3 minute video: 1) Default: Play using Windows Media Player. 2) Mac Users: Play using QuickTime player. 3) Fastest download: YouTube. 4) Subscribe to the Podcast. Oh Honey! You’re so—uh—well— Kelly Corrigan: Now that I ...
Achievement Doesn’t Matter
Friday, October 19th, 2007 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Success, Video | 3 Comments »There are four ways to view this 3 minute video: 1) Default: Play using Windows Media Player. 2) Mac Users: Play using QuickTime player. 3) Fastest download: YouTube. 4) Subscribe to the Podcast. We don’t care about results, we care about effort. ...
The Psychology of Success
Monday, October 8th, 2007 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Success, Video | 7 Comments »Kids with "growth mindsets" are more likely embrace challenges and enjoy their activities. There are four ways to view this 3 minute video: 1) Default: Play using Windows Media Player. 2) Mac Users: Play using QuickTime player. 3) Fastest download: YouTube. 4) ...
Introduction: Emotional Literacy & Raising Happy Kids
Friday, October 5th, 2007 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Teaching Emotional Literacy, Video | 3 Comments »Did you know that happiness is a skill you can teach your children? There are four ways to view this 3 minute video: 1) Default: Play using Windows Media Player. 2) Mac Users: Play using QuickTime player. 3) Fastest download: YouTube. 4) ...











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