Just One Thing: See ProgressBy Rick Hanson | January 9, 2013 | 2 comments
As we look back on the past year, we'll be able to see things that have gotten worse. But Rick Hanson asks us to also recognize what's gotten better.
We’re pleased to present the latest installment of Dr. Rick Hanson’s Greater Good blog, featuring posts from his Just One Thing (JOT) newsletter, which offers simple practices designed to bring you more joy, more fulfilling relationships, and more peace of mind and heart.
There are always things that are getting worse. You probably know someone who became unemployed or ill or both in 2012, and there’s more carbon in the atmosphere inexorably heating up the planet.
But if you don’t recognize what’s improving in your own life, then you feel stagnant, or declining. This breeds what researchers call “learned helplessness”—a dangerously slippery slope. In experiments on dogs, whose motivational neural systems are much like our own, it was very easy to use electric shocks to train them in helplessness, but very, very hard to later teach them that they could actually walk a few steps to escape from the pain.
When people learn helplessness, they lose the ability to make positive changes—or to recognize that others can make them, too. And if you don’t recognize what’s getting better in the people around you, then you’ll continue to feel disappointed—and they’ll continue to feel criticized, not seen, and hopeless. Helplessness is contagious.
If you don’t see the positive trends in our world over the past several decades—such as the end of the Cold War, improved medical care and access to information, and a growing middle class in many third world countries—then you’ll get swallowed up by all the bad news, and give up trying to make this world better.
It’s not that you’re supposed to look through rose-colored glasses. The point is to see life as it is, including the ways it’s improving.
Be aware of little ways you move forward each day. Like getting to the bottom of a sink of dishes or to the end of a stack of emails. Knowing a little more when you go to bed than you did when you woke up. Earning a day’s wages, or a thank you, or a nod of respect.
Then take a longer view: How have you moved forward over the past 12 months? What have you grown, built, learned? What problematic things have you dropped?
See some of the many ways that your material circumstances are better than they were a year ago (no matter if they have worsened in other ways). Notice any shrubs that have grown, fences mended, new clothes acquired, more earning power, improved net worth.
See how things have improved in your relationships. With whom do you feel friendlier or closer or more trusting today than a year ago? And what’s gotten better in a different sense: have you stepped back from people who don’t treat you that well?
Recognize the sincere intentions, good efforts, and growing abilities in children you raise or teach, and in the people with whom you live and work.
Consider our sweet, soft planet. Given your values, what’s gotten better over the past 20 years? 50? 100? 1000? 10,000 years? Sure, we face unprecedented challenges. But all the major problems our ancestors had to solve were by definition unprecedented when they first appeared!
Would you rather deal with our global issues today. Or—looking farther and farther back in time—with the threat of thermonuclear war between America and the Soviet Union; with Dickensian levels of poverty and misery throughout the 19th century; with millennia of feudal lords, widespread slavery, and the abuse of women and children reaching back to the development of agriculture 10,000 years ago; or with pervasive hunger and pain and violence in hunter-gatherer bands in which, as Thomas Hobbes put it, life was usually “nasty, brutish, and short”?
Personally, I’m tired of the widespread meme “in these dark times,” however it gets expressed. It’s ignorant, defeatist, and often used to further an agenda. Every time in human history has been dark in some regards—and bright in many others. In a hundred ways, daily life is better for the average person worldwide than it’s ever been.
We’ve got our work cut out for us. But to keep going we need to feel we’re making headway. Take heart: zigging and zagging, three steps forward and two steps back, slowly but surely we can and will make our world a better place.
About The Author
Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist and author of Hardwiring Happiness, Buddha’s Brain, Just One Thing, and Mother Nurture. Founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and a member of the Greater Good Science Center’s Advisory Board, Dr. Hanson has been invited to speak at Oxford, Stanford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centers worldwide. He has several audio programs and his free Just One Thing newsletter has over 75,000 subscribers.
His Greater Good blog features posts from Just One Thing (JOT), which offers a simple practice each week to bring you more joy, more fulfilling relationships, and more peace of mind.