The holidays are so fun, but many kids get really out of whack. How to manage moodiness and…
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I can remember a similar event in a grocery store, with a kid who wanted MORE (and was overwhelmed by choices, so saw that any limits I applied were going to be arbitrary). I successfully rejected the premise of the tantrum, by calling the child’s attention to something that WAS in short supply: our time together. “I’m grateful we can be here together in this air conditioned store looking at ALL these choices. Since we don’t get to do this together very often, I wish we weren’t fighting. Wouldn’t you rather choose one treat in this aisle and talk with me about your choice? I like to hear about what you like.” I dunno if it would have worked a second time, but I remember it worked that day. (Mindfulness—“how did these cereals get here?”—and perspective-changing experiences—“she doesn’t have ANY cereal!”—are great, too, but sometimes you need a quick fix.)
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I can remember a similar event in a grocery store, with a kid who wanted MORE (and was overwhelmed by choices, so saw that any limits I applied were going to be arbitrary). I successfully rejected the premise of the tantrum, by calling the child’s attention to something that WAS in short supply: our time together. “I’m grateful we can be here together in this air conditioned store looking at ALL these choices. Since we don’t get to do this together very often, I wish we weren’t fighting. Wouldn’t you rather choose one treat in this aisle and talk with me about your choice? I like to hear about what you like.” I dunno if it would have worked a second time, but I remember it worked that day. (Mindfulness—“how did these cereals get here?”—and perspective-changing experiences—“she doesn’t have ANY cereal!”—are great, too, but sometimes you need a quick fix.)
epw | 1:11 pm, November 20, 2012 | Link
I love all of these ideas!
Christine Carter | 11:39 am, November 21, 2012 | Link