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Tuesday Tip: Let Yourself Feel What You Feel

August 30, 2011 | Tuesday Tips | 0 comments

One thing you can do today to be happier.

When we feel stressed out (or sad or disappointed, for that matter) life offers a host of ways to not really feel those negative feelings. (For example: drugs and alcohol. Facebook. Staying really busy.)

The problem is that when we numb unpleasant feelings, we numb everything that we are feeling. So to feel the positive things in life—like love, or even just contentment—we must also let ourselves feel fear, grief, and frustration.

So today, let yourself FEEL whatever it is that you are feeling, without numbing it. Where in your body does it live? Is it in the pit of your stomach? In your throat? What, really, does it feel like?

© 2011 Christine Carter, Ph.D.

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