Handling Bad Behavior in Public Places: Alternatives to the Supermarket Squeeze
Wednesday, September 9th, 2009 Posted in Changing bad habits into good ones, Comment Round-up, Emotion coaching, Mindfulness & Meditation, On Life & Being a Parent, Perfectionism, Real-life parenting, Self-discipline | Leave a Comment »“Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain.” –Author Unknown My point in writing the Bad Mother: Real-Life Tales ...
Bad Mother: Real-Life Tales of Imperfect Parenting
Thursday, August 27th, 2009 Posted in On Life & Being a Parent, Perfectionism, Real-life parenting, Video | 29 Comments »Why the Supermarket Squeeze is a Technique to Avoid If you can’t be a good example, then you’ll just have to be a horrible warning. —Catherine Aird Video: Letting Go of Being Perfect You wouldn’t believe how many people ...
How to Criticize Your Kids
Wednesday, October 15th, 2008 Posted in Main essay, Perfectionism, Success, Success & failure | 5 Comments »I’ve spent a lot of time blogging about how we should praise our kids, but someone asked me the other day if there is a correct way to criticize them. Good question. Here are some ideas, a ...
How to Stop Being a Perfectionist
Tuesday, September 9th, 2008 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Perfectionism, Success, Success & failure | 4 Comments »If you’ve been reading this series on perfection being a total drag on happiness, and you keep thinking to yourself, crap, I’ve created a perfectionist, and now you’re worried that your daughter is going to end up depressed and stifled ...
How To Make Your Kid into a Perfectionist
Wednesday, September 3rd, 2008 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Perfectionism, Success, Success & failure | 1 Comment »In my last post, I made the case for preventing perfectionism in children, and got a slew of emails from people asking how to prevent perfectionism. Kids today, especially upper-middle class kids, are under a lot of pressure to ...
Perfectionism is a Disease
Saturday, August 30th, 2008 Posted in Growth & fixed mindsets, Main essay, Perfectionism, Success, Success & failure | 7 Comments »Although in my last post I heartily extolled the importance of hard work, I'd like to clarify that I'm not advocating that you push your children to become perfectionists. Perfectionism is not a happiness habit. Maybe it isn't ...
The Science of Success
Saturday, August 23rd, 2008 Posted in Kindness, Main essay, Perfectionism, Success, Success & failure | 3 Comments »Psychologists have established a solid link between happiness and success. Happier people earn more money, perform better, and are more helpful to their coworkers. Most people assume that this link exists because people feel happy when they are ...











This blog is about science-based parenting advice. I'm a sociologist and the executive director of UC Berkeley's