How to get kids to do boring (but necessary) tasks
Wednesday, April 29th, 2009 Posted in Changing bad habits into good ones, Discipline, Main essay, Rewards, Self-discipline | 28 Comments »Self-discipline is a form of freedom. Freedom from laziness and lethargy, freedom from expectations and demands of others, freedom from weakness and fear. —H.A. Dorfman After much background material about why I was using material rewards before (habit + ...
Punished by Rewards?
Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009 Posted in Changing bad habits into good ones, Discipline, Main essay, Rewards, Self-discipline | 17 Comments »Like most parents, I used to (okay, I sometimes still do) bribe my children. Constantly. As in: “I will give the first kid to have her room clean a whole sheet of new stickers.” Life is full of undesirable ...
Unhappiness is a Bad Habit
Thursday, April 16th, 2009 Posted in Changing bad habits into good ones, Discipline, Main essay, Rewards, Self-discipline | 9 Comments »The other day when I wasn’t giving Molly exactly what she wanted exactly when she wanted it, she yelled at me “If I can’t have a playdate with Claire right now, then I am never going to hug you again!” Made ...











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